Family Planning

Calming A Crying Baby

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Babies cry and some more than others and there are several reasons why! The hard part is since babies cannot speak to express themselves there is no way to tell exactly what they are crying about. This is why people often say babies don’t come with an instruction manual! Good thing is these days we have the internet and years of techniques and trials and errors to successfully identify and soothe an upset child.


Why Babies Cry


Hunger - Most common reason a baby cries

Try offering food or beverage first

Exhaustion - If baby’s sleep schedule is off they might show signs of being tired through crying

Try putting baby down to rest

Uncomfortable - Baby could be physically uncomfortable

Check  to make sure baby isn’t too hot or cold and isn’t sitting or lying uncomfortably

Frustrated - Sometimes babies become frustrated if their needs aren’t being met

Check off some of the other causes in this list to soothe frustrations

Lonely - If your baby is comfortable being held or rocked they might get lonely when put down.

Try putting a piece of your clothing with your scent safely next to your baby to help them feel you are there

Relieve Stress - Sometimes babies just cry to relieve stress

Try baby message or humming to help baby through the stressful moments



What to do


Rock-a-bye Baby

Rock baby in your arms or in a baby rocker (Favorite Baby Rocker (MamaRoo)


Sing

I love to hum “You are my sunshine” to calm babies


Walk

Baby might need a change of scenery so get up and walk around and if weather permits go outside for some fresh air


Swaddle

Swaddling a baby helps mimic mommys comfy womb

Not sure how to swaddle a baby? Thats okay try this baby swaddling tutorial to get inspired!


Get Out

If calming at home doesn’t seem to be working try taking baby on a car or stroller ride around the block.


Make Noise

My grandmother always told me to vacuum while a baby is sleeping, it sounds crazy I know but something about consistent loud noise does wonders for calming babies


Dime the lights

If your baby is sensitive to light at first, it makes perfect sense considering they are new to this bright world! Try dimming the lights or taking the baby into a dark room to soothe.


Bounce

Medium sized exercise balls work great. Not to mention it doubles as a light workout. Make sure baby is secured to you perhaps in a baby carrier or securely in your arms and bounce away until baby calms.


Pacifier

Offering a baby the pacifier should be the last resort as some babies might get confused between the pacifier and nipple especially if you find you are having any troubles breastfeeding


The 5 S’s  

You can also try These 5 techniques from Harvey Karp on soothing babies!

1. Shushing

2. Side-Lying

3. Swaddling

4. Sucking (pacifier or pinky)

5. Swinging (in the swing or in your arms)


PRO MOM TIP

Wear Ear Plugs! Not I am not kidding!

If you find you feel overwhelmed with cries, it helps to wear ear plugs to help ease your stress and make it easier to calm your baby!


Happy Soothing


Preparing For Parenthood: Tips For Parents With Disabilities

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Preparing your life and home for a new child isn’t a task to be taken lightly; there’s a lot of planning involved, preparations to make, and worries to handle. For many new parents, the thought of making such serious changes to their lifestyle is stressful because they don’t want to make any mistakes. Every parent wants a perfect environment for their little one to grow up in.


For those parents who are living with a disability, it can be difficult to make some of those changes simply because they have specific needs that have to be considered. If you have mobility concerns, for instance, figuring out the best way to handle all those nightly feedings and changings can bring anxiety. The best way to reduce those feelings is to start with a good plan for your little one while keeping your needs in mind. Make safety modifications as needed to your home, and consider small ways you can change your lifestyle that will benefit you in the long run.


Keep reading for some great tips on how to prepare your life and home for a new baby.


Childproof your home


One task that will give you peace of mind early on is childproofing. There are many ways this can be done, so it’s best to do a bit of research to find out what you might need for your home. It’s easy for many parents to put this off because they know their infant won’t be thinking about getting into kitchen cabinets, but time flies, and before you know it, your tiny bundle of joy will be crawling. Start in the rooms you know you’ll be using the most; the living room, for instance, should have electrical outlet covers and anti-tipping devices on pieces of furniture. The kitchen should have child locks on every cabinet and drawer, and you might also check to see if the knobs on your stove are removable. Here are more great tips on how to make your home safe, and keep in mind that if you can’t do it all yourself, there are people you can hire to help. Just make sure they are a member of the International Association for Child Safety.


Prepare the nursery


It’s important to think about what will make your life easier once the baby comes. If he’ll be sleeping in a bassinet in your bedroom at first, create a small station near your bed that can hold extra diapers and wipes, burp cloths, bottles, and anything else you might need in the middle of the night. If you’ll be breastfeeding, it’s also a good idea to keep a large refillable bottle of water nearby so you stay hydrated.


The nursery should be a comfortable space for both you and the baby. You might include a soft chair that will help you rock him back to sleep, or invest in a crib that will allow you to change the height of the mattress as the baby grows so you’ll always have easy access to him.


Relax


It’s important to learn how to relax, breathe deeply, and feel confident in your abilities before the baby comes. This will help reduce stress and will allow you to enjoy your time with your child. Consider trying yoga and/or meditation, which can help boost your mental health and will give you the chance to focus on the present rather than worrying about the past or future.


Preparing for parenthood comes with a lot to think about, but it doesn’t have to be a time for anxiety. Start with a good plan, and talk to your family and loved ones about what your needs are so they can be of help when you need it.

Guest Blog Contribution: Ashley Taylor disabledparents.org

Why You Should Create a Solid Financial Plan When Expecting Your First Child

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A first child comes with many new responsibilities. Some are more daunting than others, but there is no reason you can’t start tackling them now. One of the most important things to get under control as soon as possible is your finances. Coming up with a financial plan before the baby arrives is the best time to do it.  

Planning Ahead

 

Between setting up the nursery, buying baby supplies, and attending various doctor’s visits, it’s easy to let financial planning fall by the wayside. However, once the baby arrives, it will be even farther from your mind. According to Parents Magazine, most couples who don’t plan ahead run into financial issues around six months after the baby is born.

 

This can lead to significant amounts of stress and cause serious relationship issues. Financial stress has been known to take a toll on mental health. It can also lead to depression and anxiety that affects your physical health. That’s why the best time to come up with a plan is before the child arrives. Proper money management and solid financial health can relieve stress and anxiety and promote happiness. Plus, you can head into parenthood knowing you’ve got your ducks in a row.

 

Find a New Budget

 

The cornerstone of any financial plan is creating a budget. Children are expensive. On top of the larger one-time purchases such as cribs and strollers, you have to account for diapers, clothing, daycare and maybe even formula. Then as they grow, their needs will change and so will your expenses. Time magazine found that the average cost of raising a child to age 17 is $14,000 yearly. Start keeping track of your spending. This helps you to see where you can make cuts to allow for these new costs.

 

There are many hidden costs in owning a home, so you should also think about where your home fits into your budget. If your home is too expensive, you may need to downsize. Consider using a home cost calculator to work the numbers.   

 

Beef Up Your Savings

 

Most money experts will encourage you to have three to six months worth of savings in your emergency fund. This money exists should anything unexpected happen such as job loss or a hefty medical bill. Even if you are the type of person who is on top of their savings, remember that a child will add new monthly expenses. To account for this, the best time to add money to your savings is before they are born.

 

Get Your Estate in Order

 

However unpleasant it is to think about, you need to plan for the worst. In the unlikely event that something happens to you or your spouse, you can take comfort in knowing your child is taken care of. Before the baby comes is the perfect time to look at your assets and decide how you would like to distribute them. It is also the time to decide who would take guardianship of your child in the worst-case scenario. This will save your family a lot of heartache from fighting over your estate and you can have a peace of mind knowing your child will be okay.

 

The New York Times also encourages parents to take a look at their assigned beneficiaries. In many states, certain accounts will distribute to the beneficiary even if it’s noted otherwise in your will. Now is the perfect time to update your accounts.

 

Plan for Their Future

 

Truly savvy financial planners look farther ahead than the next month and even the next year. They’re planning for the long-term. It’s never too early to start saving for your child's college. Consider opening up a college savings plan in their name as soon as possible. These are designed to ensure money goes directly toward your child’s future education. It will help them avoid missing out on financial aid and owing thousands of dollars in student loans.

 

Do Not Forget Your Future

 

It’s easy to get wrapped up in spending all your money on your child. Resist this urge. There is no reason to spend everything on them now if they are going to end up supporting you in your retirement. Keep putting money toward your retirement plan. This will save everyone a lot of stress and future arguments if you are able to support yourself into your golden years.

 

Getting Your Finances in Order

 

As excited as you may be when you are expecting your first child, there will inevitably be a slow creep of stress as the weight of your new responsibilities hits you. Getting your finances under control ahead of time will significantly relieve this. It’s never too early or too late to start planning. The sooner you start, the less stressed you will be.

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