Pregnancy is a unique time for most expectant mothers that comes with some interesting challenges due to all of the changes taking place within your body. Unfortunately, pregnancy can often be made unnecessarily more challenging due to the “kindness” (or lack thereof) of strangers that pregnant women frequently encounter. Read on for some pregnancy stories that perfectly illustrate what not to do when you encounter a pregnant woman.
One of the most common pregnancy stories about “what not to do” involves strangers assuming that it is okay to reach out and touch someone who is pregnant. I’m not talking about a family member, close personal friend, or even the polite person who asks before making a move (although really everyone should). No, I am talking about the one that you barely know (or even never met before) that believes that because you are showing that it is their right to place their hands on your belly. While it is true that some moms are perfectly fine with being touched by strangers or those not within their inner circle, it should never be assumed that it is okay to invade someone’s personal bubble.
Despite the fact that most people who are providing advice mean well, the topic of unsolicited advice is one of our “what not to do” pregnancy stories because it is often anecdotal and generally unhelpful. In today’s fast-paced world, there is an insane amount of information available at our fingertips. As a result, there is plenty of expectant mothers to process without needing to sort through advice they receive to figure out what is accurate or factual and what is not. Generally speaking, if someone wants your advice, they will ask you for it.
Insensitive or Rude Comments
While some people are intentionally cruel, more often than not it is the unintentionally insensitive or offensive comments that can wound the most. Statements like, “are you sure you’re not having twins?” or, “You think it’s bad now, just wait until….” can be particularly hurtful especially for expectant mothers. The number of pregnancy stories, I hear that begin or end with a snide or unthoughtful comment is just astounding.