It is often said that having a baby has a way of changing your life completely but that the changes that accompany the arrival of your child are worth it to have that child in your life. In fact, while pregnant, many parents and moms, in particular, receive a considerable amount of unsolicited advice as well as anecdotes or idioms about parenthood. However, there are a ton of things that people don’t tell you about life as a new parent. Read on for some of our top things nobody tells you about life with a newborn.
The process of recovering from birth sends your body into a hormonal whirlwind that can wreak havoc on you, your emotions, your body, and your partner. Your hormones can fluctuate wildly as your body works to transform out of pregnancy mode. Unfortunately, there is no way to predict what this process will practically look like for each new mom because the rush or drop in hormones can manifest themselves in a variety of ways. You may find yourself spontaneously crying uncontrollably or even breaking out in rashes.
The arrival of a child brings with it lots of excitement for family and friends but one thing no one tells you is that life with a newborn can bring with it a seemingly never-ending stream of visitors. Many new parents find that everyone they know wants to stop by for a visit to see the new baby. Not only can this visit schedule be demanding in terms of time but it can also play on the fragile state of new mothers by making them feel they need to entertain. But remember, your recovery and the health of your baby takes precedent over anyone’s perceived “need” to see the baby, so it’s okay to turn down visits if you are feeling overwhelmed.
While your parents may have done a fantastic job caring for and raising you, a lot has changed since they had a new baby in their life and they may not be equipped for life with a newborn. Often new parents rely on their parents to not only remember everything they need to know about caring for an infant but also that they are up to date on the latest gear and recommendations. Taking some time to talk with parents about expectations, safety issues, and other items that are important to you can help them ease into their support role.
Every Baby is Different
Despite what many best-selling authors and experts may try to sell you, your newborn is an individual complete with their own personality and genetic makeup. While there may be some products, methods, or techniques that have a higher probability of working with most babies, there is no one size fits all approach regarding caring for an infant. Therefore, as you learn new things about your child, don’t be afraid to put that information to use yo make things easier as you transition into life with a newborn.
It’s Okay to Need Help
Whether it’s needing time for a nap, help with laundry, or something more serious like postpartum depression, the bottom line is that we all need help from time to time when adjusting to life with a newborn. It’s okay to admit that you require assistance from a partner, family, friends, or medical professional. There is so much to do, and it can become overwhelming quickly, but there is absolutely no shame in feeling swamped. Seeking out help from others does not make you a bad mother or weak but to the contrary shows your willingness to do what it takes to make sure your child receives what they need.
Depending on your situation, the help of a newborn care specialist may be the right fit for you and your family, and we would love to assist you in your time of need so contact us today.